Sometimes it’s hard for us to figure out people. To really understand who they are. What motivates them. What is really important to them. What do they value. And even more importantly, what ARE their values. What are the essentials in their life; those things they live by, the things or people they live for. What is the knot in their rope. What is the thing that is unconditional and non-negotiable when everything is going wrong and when everything is going exactly as it should.
I would venture to say there are probably very few people in our lives that we know well enough to be able to answer all of those questions about. I would say there are some of us that wouldn’t be able to answer all of them about any one person. Maybe not even those that are closest to us in our everyday life.
Sometimes understanding who someone really is and the complexities of what makes them, them, can help us have a better relationship with them. It can help us have empathy and sympathy. It can help provide some insight into the actions and behaviors of that person and give some perspective that we may not have otherwise.
Please don’t misinterpret what I am saying. Just because we may have the ability to understand why a person is the way they are does not mean that certain behaviors or actions are okay or acceptable. Insight into the person or situation occurring does not provide justification but it can help guide our choices in determining how we move forward in that relationship.
In my own personal opinion, I don’t think we give enough grace. Grace for others and grace for ourselves. And, grace does not always come without boundaries or consequences. Not for others and not for ourselves. Neither of those could be further from the truth in my opinion. Because even though we may understand the why…. that does not mean that it’s a healthy space to be deeply involved in.
Maybe grace, insight, and understanding means that we excuse ourselves from certain tables. Maybe it means that we reset our own priorities for ourselves. Maybe it means that we take a look at who WE are. What motivates US? What ARE our values? What is the knot in OUR rope? All the questions above… can we answer those about ourselves?
Hmmmmmm… that is a deep thought that can take some time to carefully consider in order to answer it honestly for ourselves. Not for anyone else. But for just us and God.
Sometimes there are circumstances and situations in our lives that leave us just completely devastated and distraught. We can find ourselves in situations where we once never ever thought we would be, not at all.
Sometimes it can feel like the enemy is just pounding and pounding and you wonder where your shield is from the fire that seems to just NOT stop. Blow after blow and you can just feel beatup and torn apart. Not yourself. And you wonder if you are going to be okay. Some days it does not feel like you are going to.
Some days your mind just will not stop with the continuous replay of all the kill shots that were fired at you.
Some days you wonder why.
Why did this happen.
Why do I let it hurt me so badly.
Why this. Why That. Why. Why, Why.
Some days you don’t know what else to do but pray.
Some days that is all that you can do is pray.
Some days you don’t even want to pray.
Sometimes we have to get to a place of feeling completely undone in order to move toward healing.
Sometimes when we are at our lowest is when we open our hearts, our eyes, to God most importantly because quite frankly, we feel like He’s all we’ve got. And we can open our hearts and our eyes to take a good look at ourselves and who we are in Christ and as a Child of God.
Sometimes when we find ourselves in such a place of desperation, that’s when we have nothing else to lose.
So, okay Lord, let’s see what you have for me.
Let’s see what healing looks like for me.
Let’s see what surrender looks like for me.
Let’s see what you can do through me.
Let’s see Lord.
As I have said in another post…. it does NOT always hurt as bad as it does today. So, hang in there!!
Take time to be with God.
Get to know Him through His Word and in prayer.
Tell Jesus all about all the sorrows of your heart.
Ask Him all the whys and then leave them with Him and let Him sort them out. That’s not our job.
Take time to think through the questions at the beginning of this post. Get to know yourself and who you are. Who you want to be.
Tell Jesus all about all of it. Ask Him to guide you and show you the kind of person He would have you to be.
Ask Him what He has for your life and what kind of life you can have together in partnership.
Ask Him to change your heart, change your desires, to be in alignment with what He has for your life….BUT … don’t go thinking He won’t do it!! LOL… Because He SURE enough will and it MAY look different than what you once thought your life would be… so pull up those boot straps and get ready if you ask God for stuff like that!! LOL
Don’t forget who you’re talking to, He is the all powerful and mighty God of the universe.
He may make the road a little more rocky than you’d like to get you to where you need to be … BUT…. I think it is only because He knows what we need in our lives in order to do that heart changing and desire changing that we asked Him for… to be in alignment with Him.
I’ve heard Beth Moore say so many times, something like, ‘you can’t get a better deal than Jesus… He’s the only thing going that promises to give you more than you could ever deserve if you surrender your life to Him,’ If that is not the truth… I don’t know what is!!
We will all be okay.
God’s got us. Everyone one of us.
Sometimes He does have to just make us so beautifully undone so that we can become recklessly made whole by His grace.
Let Jesus fill your cup, my friends!! …. It IS such good good stuff.
Much Love ❤️
Michelle