So many times that phrase has been part of a prayer. So many times.
Heartbreak hurts, Lord. It does. It hurts. It hurts for so many reasons.
It hurts because we realize that no matter how much we wanted something or someone, no matter how hard we tired. No matter how much we prayed for it, if we did in fact pray about it. It did not matter.
Sometimes it hurts because we realize the other person did not care as much about the relationship as we did. Whether it be a friendship or something more.
Sometimes it hurts because of all the good memories. All the things that meant so much to us in the moment. They still mean so much to us. And it hurts because we know we will never experience those moments again.
Sometimes it hurts because we miss them. We just miss them so much. The them that once was. The them that we once knew. The them that they showed to us before they showed us the side of them that broke our hearts.
It hurts. Broken hearts hurt, Lord.
What I am learning is that it is okay to miss them. It is okay to miss what was and still know what cannot be.
It is okay to feel the heartbreak. It is okay, for a moment, to wish things were not how they are. It is okay to remember what was and smile at the happy times and be sad they will never be again.
To feel heartbreak and sadness speaks to the love we had for them. It speaks to the love we still have for them.
To feel the heartbreak speaks to the loss we feel in our life without them. It speaks to the place of significance they held in our lives which is now void of their presence.
To feel the heartbreak speaks to our tender heart that is still open to being touched.
To feel the heartbreak is human.
To feel the heartbreak is necessary.
To feel the heartbreak is healing.
To feel the heartbreak is knowing that we deserve for our hearts to be handled with love and kindness – a Christ-like kindness and knowing they chose to not display that behavior.
It is okay to miss what was and still know what cannot be.
Heartbreak hurts, Lord. It hurts.
Much Love
Michelle